Would you like to be experiencing even deeper family connection?
Our family began traveling together in 2009. Forty countries and many struggles & amazing adventures later, we’re still working to make the very most of the time we have to spend together, because the truth is, it passes very quickly.
The essence of engaging in a positively life-changing journey as a family is all about quality connection.
Thankfully, the basic principles of connected family relationships remain the same, whether we’re traveling together or not.
Would you like to practice a few of our favorites?
5 Tips for Amazing Family Travel Connection
1. Parents, Reduce your Stress.
According to a survey of a thousand families, that’s what kids want from their parents more than anything else. Ellen Galinsky, author of Mind in the Making, asked the children surveyed, “If you were granted one wish about your parents, what would it be?” The kids’ number one wish was that their parents were less tired and less stressed.
Don’t let travel or work take over your well-being balance. Make sure you are caring for yourself properly, including adequate rest, nourishing food, & time spent doing things you love, such as your favorite hobbies. It’s also a great idea to enjoy a special date with yourself at least once a week! It’s not selfish, it’s energizing, AND it’s good for your kids.
2. Focus on Appreciation.
In all our family travel togetherness, we certainly wouldn’t want to begin taking our extraordinary adventures, or each other, for granted. Sometimes we can get stuck in a focus of only seeing our many expectations (of ourselves & others) and precisely how they are not being met. And that’s all we can see. Right? Those are the times it’s especially helpful to notice what there is to appreciate. This helps us be more responsive in our relationships instead of reactive.
Practice focusing for an entire day only on appreciation, like a mindfulness meditation. When you catch yourself drifting from that focus, kindly & gently bring yourself back to appreciation. And, remember to share it. Because…what we appreciate, appreciates!
3. Listen & Share from the Heart.
Love is about feeling, sharing, & listening from the heart. This helps us create an experience of genuine connection where everyone feels deeply seen & valued. AND it’s something we can practice. Not only that, but it feels amazing! Family travelers have a lot of time to be together in restaurants, airports, airplanes, car rides, hikes, walks, etc. Let’s make it count!
Practice having connecting conversations. Thoughtful questions help us make deep discoveries about ourselves and others. Give your loved ones your undivided attention as they speak –– no phones please –– and try to understand where they’re coming from. It’s these kinds of warm-hearted interactions that strengthen our relationships.
4. Spend quantity & quality time together with intention.
The studies on strong families indicate that both quality and quantity are necessary for good relationship formation and maintenance. A lot of time together filled with arguing won’t make for a strong family. Neither will spending only tiny amounts of high-quality time together. Nurturing family relationships takes a lot of good times spent together. It’s about making the very most of the time we have, which means…enjoying each other’s company as much as possible, while we can.
INTENTIONAL FAMILY-TIME CHALLENGE
Schedule regular family time –– daily, weekly, & monthly. Focus on crafting something exciting & magical that deepens your bonds. Be sure to include sharing & listening from the heart, giving each other lots of long hugs & cuddles, plenty of smiles, and warm eye contact.
5. Connect in Community.
It’s difficult to feel satisfied in our travel experiences as a family when we don’t feel connected to community. If we only ever feel like outsiders looking in, or outsiders not fitting in, our experiences are in need of some serious enhancement. Finding people who are into the same things we are and joining pre-existing groups and activities, or even creating our own, if need be, are good ideas.
Be proactive in this area by making a solid effort. Getting out there, talking to people, asking questions, and being a friend will provide you opportunities to network, collaborate, and share. Be sure to keep up with your new friends and stay in contact. Build your own tribe around the world!
TO SUM UP:
Being a happy family isn’t something that happens to you. It’s something you create, every single day, through your actions and focus. Happy families spend lots of quality time together. They nurture, value, and listen to one another. They share, and help each other feel seen and appreciated at ever deeper levels. They make strengthening their bond a priority. Fond family memories and intentional time spent together help create growing & enduring connections.
For me, this is truly what makes life worth living!
Do you feel the same?
I’d love for you to join me at one of two events we are holding this year! The Family Adventure Summit will be held in Beautiful Bali and is a full family event. The Family Adventure Academy will be held in Seattle and is a 3-day intensive, just for parents!
Family Adventure Academy will be an incredible weekend (in Seattle, August 16-18) to dive into everything that matters most for creating a transformational family travel lifestyle experience. If this sounds like the perfect opportunity for your family to move forward in exciting new ways, we invite you to get your tickets here!